Sunday, January 24, 2010

Enough Please!

Whenever someone goes through tough times, we always tell them “look around. There’s a whole world around you. Look at the beggar on the street, the homeless. Consider yourself lucky and get over it”. Well yes, that’s absolutely true but the last time I heard this, I wondered what they might be telling each other to make it through. Who can they look at and feel 'lucky'?

I have a friend who’s just 17 and was detected with brain cancer 2 years back. The guy’s life hadn’t even started for god’s sake! Whenever you look at him, you just can’t make out that he is going through SUCH an awful time. I know some questions don’t have answers but WHY HIM?!! Did his parents know that their 17 yr old son would have to be going through this one fine day? Did his friends know that he won’t be able to graduate with them? Did HE know that one headache would turn his world upside down?

He was so lively, so full of zest once upon a time and now seeing him sit quietly in one corner and watch TV all day is agonizing. Inspite of all this, he still manages to smile and make you feel that nothing’s changed. Whenever my parents visit him, I avoid going with them. I’m just too scared. I don’t know how to react when I see him. I don’t want to be saying something wrong.

I don’t care if people say cancer is a dangerous disease, I don’t care if people say that a cancer patient doesn’t live long. I just want him to LIVE! He has to get back to normal! Somehow, when you’re old and you’re detected with something like this, it’s still believable but when kids are made to go through such tiring times, it just doesn’t seep in.

His family has seen enough in these 2 years and everytime I look at them, I just think that it’s high time they get their due. It’s like, their patience is being tested and that ‘test’ never seems to end. How long can you go on stretching a string ..there will come a time when it’ll just snap. That’s not done. You cannot test one’s endurance level and play with them like this!

Imagine living like this continuously for 2 years. 2 fucking years! Rushing between doctors and hospitals, juggling with medicines and therapy sessions, getting up every morning and struggling through their days ..
It’s too much.
They don’t deserve this. Nobody does.
On what basis is all this planned anyway? It SUCKS! Sucks so bad to see someone who so badly wants to live, battling for life everyday.
I hope they win this.

‘Whatever happens, happens for the best’ is something I totally believe in but I can’t get myself to understand how such a thing can happen for the best?

23 comments:

Meera said...

:) I know were the first para is coming from.. ;)

Well, shit happens as they say. I too have a friend who was detected with tumor when she was barely 17. And yeah,2 years now. Many operations after...many treatments after...she still remains the same..and there is no chance for her survival...whatever could be done has been done...she is scared of death...but she is fine...she is getting love from all over...few months back she turned completely blind...the sight of her is only so so sad and depressing.

I have never believed that whatever happens..happens for the best. It's not true! Whatever happens, happens with a reason though...might be good or bad..

May they live as long as they can happily around the people they love most.. :) We could only do one thing - Pray.

The Bald Guy said...

It's just too bad sweetheart. I have no words for such a situation. How do you live through all this, I have no idea. God bless him and ease his suffering.

Raj said...

i wish i cud have said something soothing but i cant. if anything, what i m gonna say might just be downright upsetting.

orange. if ur parents go meet them, go with them. say hello. talk to him. give him some attention, its not that he is gonna be here long. so the little while that he is, make it worthwhile. talk to him about ice creams and chocolates. u might hit a dead end but then anyways u tried. for a minute think to urself, what will be more human?

being afraid and not caring. or just caring? let him feel wanted, he may just appreciate it.

apologies. but i felt i should say this.

Raj said...

ps: things dont really happen 4 the best, but people hope they do so that facing them is easier. thats all.

remember 3 idiots aal iz well?

just dat. life is a bitch. no denying it.

:) tk cr

blunt edges said...

a grim tale...n i don't subscribe to the 'everything happens 4 the best' theory...neither do i think that anyone is keeping a track of our 'karma'...life is just not fair 4 some!

really sorry about your friend.

sulagna said...

:(

sulagna said...

but cheer up na plz..i dont like seeing the sulk

LITTLE ON THE EDGE said...

funny thing about life....u dunno knw whenn it's gonna hit u right in the face....some have it bad...some buggers have it good....that just seems to be the way things run around here...u dont wanna think later,when its too late that there was a way to make the present situation a little better....so just go n help him be himself n forget all that he feels and let him live life to the fullest

The Idiot Blogs said...

Life ain't fair mate... these are things that we say to console ourselves...Life ain't a bitch either...

Life is something that dangles between joy and sorrow... making us drink in the bitter and the sweet in unequal portions...

And there just might be an explanation to almost everything... there just might be some infinite wisdom that will answer all our questions... but it just wont console...

Sorry about your friend...

Chocolate Lover said...

T_T
'am asking the same question to everyone since last five months.
My bestest friend died four months ago.
T_T

♪♪HARINI♪♪ said...

I so hope they win too!! Really.. it was so touching..
and yeah i believe in the saying too... but sometimes i do find myself saying "how can what im going through possibly be the best for me?" but i dont get an answer until it passes...

nil said...

Cheer up oRange*!! C'mon! <333
HUGS!

Ria said...

felt so bad after reading this post....i always feel there r certain things that jus dont hav any kinda justification!!

Shanu said...

I totally agree..I just dnt get life sumtimes..It isnt fair...it never is. I am so sorry to hear abt ur frnd..and i kno it must brk ur hrt to see him in that state.

I agree wit Raj...now is the time that he needs u more thn ever..stay wit him..give him the strength he needs to fite the dreaded disease..and i hope and pray he wins.

NoFaIrYtAlE said...

i cn undrstnd..my uncle wz a victim of cancer too n it wz so painful to go to c hm..

nyc post btw :)

Americanising Desi said...

i have started to question n have qualms like u, but i think i m sinning!

oRange* said...

@Raj: you're absolutely right. i'll do that the next time. for sure. thanks

@AD: and why is that?

soin said...

my bro got detected when he was four.thankfully initial stages.so they cant operate.so tablets that put him to sleep.till he was about 12.no tv games,no straining and all that.lost most of his childhood.but he is healed in the end.the soothing light at the end of the tunnel may not always be a freight train..free

sulagna said...

just came to check...has the smile come back on your face..

waiting


waiting

send me a smiley on Fb if you are back to your yellow mellow self

oRange* said...

@soin: great to hear that!

@sulagna: awhh :)
*hugsss*

Disguise said...

Cheer up :)

The Sage said...

unfortunate that the first time i stumble upon this most excellent corner of the blogosphere, i happen to comment on this hard hitting post...

but cancer can be overcome, and once ou walk out of the test that it is you are much more aware of how to LIVE life... and i am not saying this after reading lance armstrong... i know at least two people who have done it... so i hope your friend becomes the third one... all the best to him,a nd to you for youwill need to give him support when all else seems lost...

Yemiledu said...

I know somebody who was detected with brain tumor. The doctors said he would not survive more than six months. This was said 4 years ago. Now he is fine...actually better than before...See Miracles do happen.

At least there have been instances in the cases of patients with brain tumors where cancer got defeated by hope.

But Canccer sure is scary...:~(

WIth hope I pray for the best to happen to your and Meera's friend.

All of us are stars and deserve the right to twinkle ♥