Saturday, October 24, 2009

Why so grumpy?

“Some of us are sadomasochistic; some of us thrive on having our minds messed with, our hearts constantly in a churn of adrenalin. As long as our fix is met, of people who will play basketball with our hearts and minds, we somehow feel justified in being the victim. Well, I was done with being the victim. The credits had rolled, and I was now going to live the rest of my life.”
-You Are Here by Meenakshi Reddy Madhavan

This for me, is the best part of the book. I totally agree with it! Some of us are made that way. We have fun playing the ‘victim’..everytime. It gives us a weird kind of a high. I too was once upon a time a part of that league.

Times have changed. Im done blaming people for the various things that have happened. Im glad they occurred, for if it wasn’t for them and those assholes that came by and shook me, I wouldn’t be the way I am today. I needed that *shaking* from time to time.

The teenage years is the time when we start whining about every small thing happening to us ..and u know the “I like him but he likes my best friend” shit ..and ofcourse “why meeee!!” is like the most common dialogue used by people. I SO hate that line! Doesn’t make sense. Stop fretting people. Get a life.
..and for some, that continues and u slowly start becoming that way. U get used to crying over stuff and having a hundred people console u

There was a point of time when saying “im bugged” became a routine for me. In a day, I just had to say that line atleast once! Then one day, my friend asked me why was i SO bugged and that what went wrong ..and I just stared back blankly at her.
lol, I didn’t know why I was bugged inspite of using it every single day!
And from that day onwards, I stopped using that highly negative and depressing line.

Like some people have the habit of saying “im bored” ..they just cant do without it. They’re so used to saying that, that it eventually becomes a part of them.

So its always better to stop showing yourself as this totally bored, tired, irritated with life, why-me types personality ..
U just spread negativity and nothing else.

Take a stand. If u dont like the way your life's turning out to be and u think it sucks, do something about it. Dont just complain. Gets u nowhere.

14 comments:

Rishi said...

well said... well advised...

Darshan Chande said...

Hm... now I like this kinda posts, Orange! A very good observation. Yeah, you're right we kinda get weird sort of pleasure in being miserable. I think you prefer to act miserable when you are alone because you would then expect someone to notice and say "hey look, poor Orange is in misery-" and come to you. Imagine you are alone and still keep happy then whose attention you will attract?

Do you remember when you were small and you wanted some thing (like toys) and you were denied then you would cry loudly so that someone hears you are crying. Even when sulking you would expect someone notices you and comes to comfort you. Even "leave me alone!!" means "come, hug me" in such case. (It's the story of most of the people, including me)

Good that you are over it now :)

Sid 'Ravan' Kabe said...

hey thats interesting...:D

So its always better to stop showing yourself as this totally bored, tired, irritated with life, why-me types personality ..
U just spread negativity and nothing else.

Totally agreed... one up...:D

oRange* said...

@Rishi: thank yew :)

@Darshan: its not always for attention though but yeah its just too negative and a serious turn off. thanks darshan :)

@Sid: yooo! thanks thanks

Soumya said...

wow! finally someone with some sense :) good going girl

The Crystal Heart said...

Now Orange You Are Growing Up..Now You Are Brilliantly Understand the Situation And Solved It Successfully..You Learnt From Your Mistakes....Orange Is Powerful Girl..Now Problemsss Shivering To The Name Of You.....We Al Knows Orange Middle Name Is Genius.Keep It Up Doll..

buckingfastard said...

sorry maam..stop scolding me!!

i am da 'i m bored' guy re!!

but i use dat a lot..coz if i dont...oder members of 'i m bored' community question me regarding my secret of happiness...

i had a lot more 2 say...but i m bored...hehe

oRange* said...

@Soumya: :)

@The Crystal Heart: lol, thanks

@buckingfastard: weirdo! stop saying it and see how good it feels!

Americanising Desi said...

even though i feel like hitting people who have sympathy or pity me but i guess your point of "We have fun playing the ‘victim’..everytime." is so true!
so darn true!

The unsure ascetic said...

yeah, I agree. this is the right attitude.

abhi said...

We drive our life, yes we are the boatman of our destiny

anjugandhi said...

"Take a stand. If u dont like the way your life's turning out to be and u think it sucks, do something about it. Dont just complain. Gets u nowhere.'

HOW TRUE
it is really in our hands to change and mould our life as we want.just sitting and crying over what has happened or what will happen doesnt solve any problems

ani_aset said...

i am careful about not being into "why me?" state. even if i do, i have ready answers, and its a self healing system :)

oRange* said...

@The unsure ascetic: yap!

@abhi: rightly said!

@anjugandhi: exactly.

@ani_asset: woopie! good for u :)

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