Wednesday, August 26, 2009

ah, so hyped up!

Marriage, what an overrated word! Seriously.
My views about marriage have taken quite a few drastic turns over the last couple of years. Some years back, I would get so excited about getting married. I seemed to love everything about it that time. The whole ceremony stuff, the shopping, the gifts, all the people coming in to be a part of your BIG day ..oh sure, MY SOOOOPER BIG DAY :)
And ofcourse , most importantly ..u get to spend the rest of ur life with the guy u ‘love’ ..and then come kids and blah blah blah

But now, I don’t feel the same anymore. I mean, I still want to get married but a hell lotta questions come up in my mind! Why is this word given so much importance?!
Why is it that if u don’t get married by the time u’r 30 ..people go ‘haaaaaw!’
Yes, a ‘normal’ life would be to get married and have kids at ofcourse the ‘right’ times ..but duh, who made it that way!

I’ve heard guys say ..”ya, I like dating bad girls but I think I would want to marry a good girl”! no really, WTF :S
Do things change after marriage? Do people just change overnight thinking that they are now married? If no, then why such statements?!
What if u guys don’t gel well? Isn’t that important! I mean, u freaking have to spend ur whole life with her! What if things don’t work out!
Yes, I know there’s divorce but duh point is that we need not go through all the complications before marriage if we just take wise decisions before taking sucha step.

Ok, now lets jump to my issues with marriage! Im just scared. Scared, not of commitment but scared if we fall out of love after getting married. U know, the whole taking each other for granted thing. It happens, I’ve seen couples around ..unhappy couples who just don’t feel the same about each other anymore. They’re just too busy with their professional lives and handling their kids that living with each other becomes like a duty for them. Now, that’s miserable.

I just hope, im able to find someone ..who’s right for me, like bang on! only then I think, will I marry. sometimes I wonder if im expecting too much..

I have no idea how things are going to turn out 10 years from now and how people close to me will react to my decisions but I just hope I have the courage to stand up for what I believe is right for me.

Damn! Im excited to see whats in store for me and after all this, what i will actually end up doing :D

..oh, I have a lot to say about kids as well but I guess ill keep it for later! Toodles


ani_aset said...

:) hehe your excitement is oozing out everywhere in this post about marriage :D
P.S:Remove word verification and just moderate comments, its so irritating

oRange* said...

excitement! haha, actually yeah
just a different kind. i just have a lot to say about it :D

okay sir!

ani_aset said...

thank yew :)

.... said...

True true ture. I broke up with my BF who I had known for 7 years recently, and one big underlying fear was this, what if we just grow out of love... what if all the stuff we have in common just gets drowned in the mundanity of life. Lucidly written... keep writing.

oRange* said...

thank you :)

workhard said...

I think the hype around marraige has more to do with culture than anything else..

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